Will Money Ruin Your Relationship?
Dear Debbie,
As you know, my relationship with F. is very difficult, and for me, it stems from him not making enough money. It’s just always an issue, and I’m about ready to lose it with him, and I’m really wondering if I should stay in this relationship or not!
N.
Dear N.
I don’t think you need to negate that the finances are important, but rather, that you have to decide if that’s a dealbreaker. That’s when you realize that yes, you could end up with someone with more money but perhaps other issues you can’t stand.
So then it becomes, hopefully, just another challenge for two people who love each other in their relationship to resolve, together, as a united team, rather than at odds, head to head with each other.
Would you rather focus on blame and he’s lacking, or we are solving our problem together? Remember, whatever you focus on, you get more of!
Debbie
