Psychic Medium Debra Crossman’s Blog

I have a question regarding the Law of Attraction. I am having a relationship with a man that I love but there are things about him that indicate he may not be my ‘Mr. Right’. Is it okay to continue to be with him but still be open to - and - continue to ask the Universe to send me my ‘Mr. Right.’ It sounds kind of silly, but I’m just wondering if the Universe will still look for my ‘Mr. Right’ while I’m having a relationship with possibly ‘Mr. Not Right’. I wonder if I have to be totally alone and not be dating anyone to have the Universe send me my ‘Mr. Right’. If the Universe thinks I’m happy dating the possibly ‘Mr. Not Right’ will it still look for and send me my ‘Mr. Right’? I feel silly asking this question but I really would like to know the answer.

Great Question! There used to be a commercial that said “It’s not nice to fool Mother Nature”. The way I see it, you’re trying to fool, or manipulate, the Universe. You’re asking the Universe (or your Self) to ignore what you’re DOING and just go with your wish - whereas, what you’re DOING is also activating a certain vibration. The vibration of seeing Mr. Wrong, or Mr. Right Now, is that you are settling for less, you deserve less, you are putting up with things that don’t suit you, you are not respecting your own desires, etc. See what I mean? What on earth will the Universe give you back, as a matching vibration? Mr. Perfect? How could it? You are not a match to that! You are being - or vibrating - at a level that says you don’t deserve any better than this, that your innermost desires are not worthy of being met. The Universe can only return to you that which you are. You reap what you sow - the boomerang will come back to you exactly as you threw it out there.

In another analogy, we are giving our order to the waitress or waiter and asking the Chef to make for us, and bring us what we want. So do we ask that person for a perfectly cooked steak, just the way we like it, with all the trimmings, exactly as ordered? Or do we say just bring me whatever’s on hand, half-cooked, partly spoiled, dropped on the floor a few times first? Hey, don’t even bother putting it on a plate, just slap it down in front of me, that’s good enough.

You decide…but just remember, the proof is always in the pudding. What you HAVE, right now this minute, is exactly what you ARE. Your vibration, what you’re thinking, doing and feeling, is exactly manifested in everything in your life right now. Whatever you THINK you want doesn’t really matter, because what you REALLY want is exactly what you’ve received and manifested. If it were otherwise, you’d change, right? There’s no way to cheat the Universe. If you truly don’t like the life you have right this minute, you must change your vibration to receive anything different.

Thanks - keep those questions coming!