Psychic Medium Debra Crossman’s Blog

I got this beautiful letter of confirmation and testimony today, I thought I’d share it:

Good afternoon,

My name is S. I was lucky enough to meet with you in August of 2011 with a few of my girlfriends. I was inspired by your profound talent and connectedness to the Universe that day. The moment I got into my car that evening, I listened to your complimentary CD and have listened to it almost daily thereafter. Everything that we discussed that evening has manifested in my life! One thing in particular that you mentioned was that this point in my life is about transition. You further explained that it would be one that would not be easy but I could get through it and that even though I had been through hardship before, this time seemed more pivotal than the others. You are so right!

In September a back injury that I had in February 2011, reoccurred and then occurred again in late November. The November episode brought me to my knees in every sense of the word. I’ve been out of work since the middle of December and am having back surgery tomorrow to hopefully correct the issue. The very same time I started dealing with the most recent episode with my back, our 11 year old Great Dane stopped eating…we found that he had a cancerous stomach tumor…We had to put him down this past Saturday. He taught me about loyalty and the essence of unconditional love. I know he’s no longer in pain and I believe, in true Morpheus fashion, he was rallying for me because he saw that I was sick and needed him. I’m at peace but completely heartbroken.

These past few months have been extremely trying but I do feel like 2012 has some very positive things to offer me. Because I am lying down most of the day, it has given me the opportunity to reconnect with myself and learn. I’ve re-read The Secret for the 4th time and like all the other times, have learned some things. I am concentrating completely on asking, believing and receiving. I am grateful for this time, even though I am injured. I was able to spend the last days of my dog’s life with him all day every day and have connected with my family and my husband on an even deeper level than I ever thought possible. I am so grateful for these gifts.

I think you have an amazing gift and I am grateful for the information you provided me in August. I believe it has eased this tumultuous transition in my life. Great things are coming to me. I know it!

What is the best way to schedule some time to speak again? I would really like to bring my Mom in the Spring/early Summer and also touch base myself.

My hope is that you read this and feel a confirmation in your gifts and talents. Please continue what you do and know that you are truly appreciated. Thank you!

With warmest gratitude,
S.

I received this letter today - I thought is was a great question, and here’s my answer!

Hi Deb,

I had 2 sessions with you last year. One was a reading, and one was a session about Law of Attraction. As we had discussed, I now realize that I have been on a journey for a long time to realize what the metaphysical world is all about. I do believe in the power of the Universe and our thoughts. I also know that we have guides and I have seen examples of that. However, I am confused and sad about the fact that I have asked my guides for a blue feather, just for validation. It’s been a month or longer, and no blue feather… Why do you think that my guides won’t produce it?? Since I do believe they are with me, it makes me sad that they won’t. I’m not frustrated, just sad and confused. Can you shed any light on why it is that they won’t show this to me?? I just don’t understand why they won’t. I hope you can explain it. Thank you so much for your help!! J.

Dear J.

Well, it’s my guess that once again the Law of Attraction is working - that is, what you focus on you get more of. So you’re focused, now, on NOT having received the feather, and you’re focused on the feeling of sadness (which is also a judgment with many layers of emotion beneath it), so unfortunately, what LOA is bringing you is more NO FEATHER and more SADNESS, as that’s what you’re asking for by your focus upon them. Law of Attraction doesn’t judge, it just matches your vibration.

You ‘d be much wiser to focus on gratitude for what you have received - more understanding, better balance, greater wisdom, serenity of thought, etc. Or, just focus on what you have right this minute - good health, nice clothes, a hot cup of tea, a great car, nice friends, good job, a great computer that’s connected and working, lots of guides bringing you answers just like this one!

By making gratitude your focus, or just focusing on the positive aspects in the moment, you will change your vibration so that the feather can show up, at which point it will just be one more thing you’re noticing and thankful for!

A client of mine recently sent me this note, and here’s my answer:

Re: my reading, I’ve had several phone calls, two in-person interviews and one phone interview since I saw you. I actually do still want to change jobs, but with all of those it would be frying pan to the fire. You told me the change I would make in the job would activate other changes in my life, which I still want, but don’t want to jump to another job just for the sake of change, and wind up with less money and fewer benefits. You did say December though, and it is only November. I’m just frustrated, I guess.

We’re all constantly changing our path, aren’t we? I mean, right up until now I thought I’d be having Thanksgiving either here with family, or down in NJ with family, and we’ve just found out that “family” is not going to be involved either way! So all the clients and invitations I’ve turned away for that Friday I could have done. I’m trying to figure out if there’s some other really good use of that time, as it seems the Universe (that is, Me) wants me to do something else!

So - if I had had a reading saying something about that weekend + family, it would have seemed like a given, but now it’s all different, not through anything I’ve done, either! But who knows? I think as long as you are comfortable with your choices, that is that you’ve chosen with self-respect (just as you said, not choosing for the wrong reasons) then the Universe will continue to match that vibration and bring you more opportunities.

It’s kind of like driving a car or a boat - we constantly, usually just automatically, are making minute or very small adjustments of the steering wheel to stay on course - a little swerve here, a sudden stop there, etc. We might even have to make a detour (I did just the other night - big accident on a major road so I backed up and went the whole long way around!) but we still reach our goal. So I think that’s what you’re doing…and yes, who’s to say what’s coming in December, thanks to your adjustments in course over the last month or so? Just keep on making conscious, well thought out decisions based on what you want, not on want you don’t want!

And your reading isn’t necessarily invalidated, it’s just that you may have now chosen, and activated, one of your alternate futures. For example, we could set up an appointment for tomorrow at 10, and then something happens to cancel that, and we go to an alternate path. Now, maybe the “not choosing” of the new job is really the way it was supposed to be, and the reading was picking up on a different future! It’s always hard to say. But no, I don’t think our decisions can invalidate anything, they just then become the vehicle to go in a certain direction. (I mean, look at the extreme example of people who get sex-change operations - they came in with the original future and vehicle and go to such extreme measures to change that! Was it truly meant that they were supposed to be the other sex? Or was it meant that they were supposed to go through all that drama? I don’t know, but boy, talk about changing your vehicle! LOL!)

On the other hand, if your reading was ultra-specific and said that working in that specific place (by name) was going to have a specific outcome, then it’s likely that you’ve truly invalidated that possibility, at least for now. (I once worked for a place twice, in 2 different decades! So there’s that…)

I’ll never forget the time that I was engaged to be married to the man I thought was my life partner and soulmate. I “saw” and “heard” psychically, with full visions, all the details of the wedding, the invitation, everything about it. Well, needless to say, it never happened. I would have laid money on it at the time, but - that future is apparently for another lifetime.

Don’t lose sight of your original goals and desires - what are the components of that new job, the other changes? What feelings do you want to feel, what tangibles will be yours once the changes are made? The Law of Attraction matches your feelings, which cause your vibrations - so make sure you are being in an appreciative, positive and loving mode and it has to pay off for you!

One of my favorite teachers of the Law of Attraction is the group entity known as Abraham, channeled by Esther Hicks. Here’s a quote from one of their lectures that is SO true, I just had to repeat it for you!

Your power of Influence

“Let’s say you come together with someone and you’re feeling high and happy, and they just got bad news and are feeling not. When you come together with that person, what happens is each of you, without even knowing you are doing it, are trying to get the other to come where you are. You’re trying to get them up, they are trying to get you down, because you have this natural desire to communicate.

But there’s also this other thing that happens, when you’re aware of them, there’s a natural blending or balancing of the energy, so much so that when you have a room full of people that come together, the room has a personality - which is the combination of that which you all are. And one new person could walk into the room, who has an extremely high or extremely low vibration and the personality of the room would change. Its just a natural process.

When you’ve decided to tune your frequency to that of your source, and make the frequency of others in the room irrelevant to you, now you’ve got control of your point of attraction.

ITS ABOUT EXERCISING YOUR OWN POWER OF INFLUENCE.

It’s about being determined not to be influenced by what’s going on around you, so you practice to be here (vibrationally) , and they are there (vibrationally), what happens is they must join you, or they must go away. Because you’ve practiced not going where they are”.

Abraham, Asheville NC, 9-27-2011 - cd 2 track 3

I received this lovely testimonial recently, and thought I’d share it with you to illustrate what can happen sometimes in a reading, and how it can affect our lives…many thanks for the permission to share the story.

Hi Debbie,

Its been a few years since I booked an appointment, but in 2007, you did a reading for me and warned me about my father not living very much longer. You said he came from a long line of people who lived into their 80’s and 90’s, but it wasn’t going to be that way with him. You advised me to connect with him, and to do it soon. That night I told my wife (now divorced) and son what you said, and we reconnected with my dad. He died 9 months later, of leukemia. Your advice to me was to reconnect ahead of his sickness so things would be established when he did get sick. Thankfully, that happened thanks to you.

Anyway, that was a very very belated thank you. And you are really the only psychic I trust. You are an amazing person with obvious talent. Thank you for using it to help others - you are one of those who gives back to society and I appreciate what you did for me.

Recently, a group of friends arranged an “Evening With the Other Side” party, which is like a seance, in order to tune into a mutual and beloved friend that had passed over. It was important to me that they would understand how it might work, and this is what I told them:

“One thing I need to make clear for you - if all of you are wanting to tune into the same deceased friend, the messages are going to be very similar, if not identical. In other words, he or she will not have long, intimate, distinctly personal words for each of you. Because of the group’s interest in one person, which is rather unusual (sometimes I’ll have many family members asking about all of their family’s loved ones, but that’s another dynamic altogether…) it will instead be that first, I will ask for the friend’s first name and read that person through my hostess (let’s say Mary). I will confirm that I am tuning into the person for you by describing their personality and characteristics, and whatever else I pick up, to let you know that I’m focused on the right Spirit, since I have never met them and have no knowledge of them. Then, I would see if you have any questions for that person, or if I’m picking up anything else for you from them, or from other deceased loved ones in your energy field. Then, I’ll move on to the next guest. But as you an see, much of what I’ll be getting from your departed friend will come out in the first reading, so the other guests are unlikely to hear something new and different when I get to their turn - it will be likely that I’ll pick up OTHER things for them, but not necessarily from or about the friend.

I wanted to make sure you knew this, so that people weren’t disappointed or dismayed by the way it will take place. However, everyone can ask a question directly to the friend (or any deceased loved one) and we can see what that brings out. Almost always, direct questions will get more for us, as the Spirits are sending me impressions and pictures which I am then interpreting in my human mind, which can be a little vague or ambiguous. With a direct question, I can interpret the answer more clearly, since we know what we’re talking about! (Mediumship is a very inexact science! LOL!).”

It’s always so comforting, and for some people, astounding, that we can contact our deceased loved ones. At a recent public group demonstration, an older gentleman was there with his wife and clearly, he had been “dragged” to the event! He sat with his arms and legs folded across his body, giving the distinct body language of someone unwilling and unlikely to be easily impressed by my work. Needless to say, when I brought him the information and message from his deceased brother, this man was shocked. He made a special point to thank me afterwards and told me I’d been exactly right on the mark about his brother, and that he never would have believed in this type of thing otherwise!

I enjoy giving that kind of confirmation to people that there is life after death, and communication with the dead. Our loved ones in Spirit enjoy it, too!

Because of a very extraordinary outcome for one of my clients, I’d like to tell you about her recent experience. It’s kind of a long story, but I think you’ll agree it’s amazing!

As she prefers to remain anonymous, I’ll call her Ms. X. We’ve known each other for many years, and she has had numerous readings and hypnosis sessions with me. When I introduced my new “Return to the Source” program, she was eager to take this next step in her efforts to overcome the issues and difficulties that have been lifelong problems. Even though we both thought we knew all the details of this life and many past lifetimes, the Soul Reading and subsequent intense hypnosis session revealed information and karma that stunned us. It was extremely emotional and yet, she pressed on and worked through everything that came up, giving herself the opportunity to release, forgive, and have a fresh start in her life. Finally, she fully understood the “whys” of all the things that had happened during this lifetime.

What came next was even more stunning: within a few weeks, a health problem she was experiencing just wouldn’t clear up, and when she went to her doctor last Wednesday, was given the devastating news that it was virtually certain that she had bladder cancer! She had every indicator and symptom, and as a cancer survivor, and with a family member who had had bladder cancer, it seemed only too possible that this preliminary diagnosis was true. It could not be confirmed for a week, and as you can imagine, the stress and tension of not knowing was horrendous.

I immediately suggested that she have another hypnosis session, that very day. It’s my experience and firm belief that EVERY illness has an emotional basis, and is our body trying to release or deal with feelings and issues that we are not coping with consciously. I wanted to get to her subconscious mind as quickly as possible to find out what was the purpose of this “message” from her emotions, and what we could do to begin the healing process right away. Knowing what we had learned in her previous session, and certain events in her life, I had an inkling about the direction to take (and of course, being psychic helped too!). However, our schedules, and geographical distance, made it impossible to get together in person, so for the first time, we had a hypnosis session over the phone.

Fortunately, Ms. X is an excellent hypnotic subject. In spite of her fatigue, pain, and fear of the answers, she gamely opened herself up and cooperated with the process, relaxing into a deep hypnotic state. What we learned was incredibly revealing, and clearly her emotions had already been working on her for some time, resulting in the potential to create a life-threatening illness. However, she made the decisions necessary during this session to release and forgive the last remaining triggers (primarily anger) and was able to allow her body to commence the healing process. Using imagery, visualization, and positive affirmations, she programmed her mind to see and feel the outcome she desired - complete good health.

At the end of the session, she promptly fell into a deep sleep, but found herself releasing physically (multiple trips to the bathroom!) for the next 24 hours. I had already read her psychically, and felt certain that she did NOT have cancer, but there was something else there that would have to be removed. She went for tests on Friday to see what might be happening with her kidneys, and indeed, was found to have not only a kidney stone but a cyst on her kidney! However, the poor woman was in the midst of the testing, after fasting and worrying, only to have the power fail in the building, and was told she’d have to start all over again on Monday! It was my psychic opinion that this happened because her body needed more time to heal itself, before anyone planted the seed in her mind that would label her as having cancer. (I’m not saying she caused the power to fail, but she would have been guided to be there at just that moment to not be able to finish the test!)

As you may have guessed, after intensive, painful tests on Monday - she was found to be CANCER FREE! She had indeed reversed and healed the apparent reality that her body was starting to create, based on her emotions. While she will have to undergo the pain of passing a kidney stone, she and I are mightily impressed with her new manifestation!

We also recognize that had she not undergone the initial Return to the Source reading and hypnosis, it is likely that the need for something so self-punishing, victimizing and potentially deadly would have continued to progress in her life. Once something is firmly embedded in the physical realm, it’s still possible to heal it, just more difficult as it has already taken on physical form. However, never once did she succumb to any self-pity, or surrender to the “inevitable”, or buy into the notion that this was going to be her fate. By jumping on the offensive so quickly and taking matters in hand, she was able to change her own future, which is something we all have the ability and opportunity to do, at any time and in any circumstance. My deepest respect and congratulations go out to her!

My sister and I have recently begun some new personal projects - well, not so new, the usual plans to lose some weight, and stick to a budget! We’ve been very proud of our efforts so far, finding ingenious ways to save money and pare down the calories. However, it suddenly struck me that we have to be very careful about our focus - because what you focus on, is what you’ll get!

I reminded her that we have to remember some basic Law of Attraction principles. If we focus too much on austerity or limits, we’ll increase the limits in our lives. In other words, if you’re looking at a budget, or to lose weight, which seem to be so positive and self-loving, they’re actually focused on what you lack: money, and a slimmer body. The unspoken desire that your subconscious, and the Universe, will latch onto is that you don’t have enough money, and you’re overweight, because that’s actually what you’re thinking about, focusing on, talking about, etc. Remember, the Universe can only do one thing, and that’s to match your vibration - so if you’re vibrating lack, or poverty, or unhappiness about your body, or lack of good health or self-discipline, even though you seem to be doing something positive about it, the intention is based upon the negative aspect.

So make it a point to be focused on what you have an abundance of - just look around your house and say thanks for your lovely things, a full closet, a full freezer, flowers on your table, good friends, a warm coat - and then focus on what you desire to come to you next. But, again, focus on the positive, not on what the lack makes you want to have. In other words, if you focus on “more money coming in” it emphasizes the lack, so it would be better to visualize or appreciate what you might be doing in the future because you have the funds to do it. You could be picturing yourself in your favorite vacation spot, or gazing at your new sofa, or eating in that new restaurant downtown. You could even go shopping for things that you’ll soon be wearing in the smaller size (not worrying about the price!), or make plans to take an exercise class or go for more walks. But recognize the vibration of those things - they’re fun, upbeat, optimistic, exciting - coming from the intention that they’ll make you happy and feel good.

So here’s to feeling good - find all the things in your life, or in your imagination, that make you feel good, and make it your goal to have them be your most prominent, dominant thoughts from now on!

I just received this interesting question from a client:

Dear Debbie:

L.

Dear L.:

So - yes, the future can be manifested and/or changed, but I just think some things are easier than others. And, if it involves other people, or the government, or the weather, or whatever, well then you’ve just added more challenges to the mix. Not impossible, just more - challenging!

Dear Debbie,

N.

Dear N.

Debbie